At one time or another we have all had to experience one end or the other of Tough Love....
This blend assists us in moving to a higher place than our emotional ties and past to respond to a current situation....The place of wisdom that there are some things beyond our control. When my Mother went through the last batch of radiation for Cancer, the intensity of the radiation and the various drugs had left her quite disoriented. I realized that if I was to be of any help to her when I got home that I needed to get to a place where I could stand with her from whatever place she was in.
This blend supported me to support her through a very challenging time. It is one of those times when you realize that we are all so connected and yet
we all have our different ways of seeing and getting through these challenging times. There just is no rule book that teaches us how to deal with the multitude of emotions that seem to emerge, especially when everyone feels their way is the right way. (Thankfully there was this bath oil).
Sometimes we just kick into overdrive, blasting through only to drop at the end, other times we fall apart all the while feeling bad that we couldn’t have been stronger or handled it differently. Let’s not forget the part about making sure we Fix everything.
I knew while I was making this blend that I was starting to understand that this wasn’t something to be fixed (and seldom is). I wanted to be able to provide a space for myself to honour the process in whatever way it was about to unfold.... To take me to another level of trusting in the bigger picture.... To lend me the courage and capacity to create space for the other person to be wherever they need to be. It meant finding the balance point of trusting that when I am honouring what’s happening for me that I will be in a greater place to honour what I am capable of doing or not doing to benefit another. Also realizing that there will be times when I will need to trust that as I honour what’s best for me it may mean saying No to others.
Often referred to as Tough Love. Often, the Signs are saying No, yet we will ignore them as the guilt comes rushing in. Tough Love helps us to discern and trust our instincts. Maybe when we are unable to be present for certain things it is because someone else will actually provide even greater assistance than we could have. When we come to a place of honouring what’s right for us, we will then be able to trust that the other people in our lives will do what is right for them.
Hopefully, along the way we will lose the need to judge how and what everybody else is doing and how they are doing it. When our intent is pure and we aim for the highest good of all, then we will always be exactly where we need to be when we need to be.
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